And onto date #4…
Why is it that people in relationships have a tendency to feel bad for their friends who don’t have a significant other? And they are always saying they think they know someone you may like? As if being single is a curse or automatically means you’re lonely.
You know what time it is right now for me?
It’s time for me to be selfish.
It’s for me to do things only thinking about myself.
If I want to watch a girlie flick, I can do so without the worry of a guy trying to dissuade me.
If I want to spend a Saturday night giving myself a mani/pedi, I can do so without complaint from anyone.
If I want to roll around my entire bed throughout the night, I can do so without worrying about bumping anyone off of it.
If I want to spend a night just reading, i can do so without worrying that I’m ignoring someone.
If I want to just date without worrying about hurting anyone’s feelings, I can do so.
If I want to have a set workout schedule throughout the week, i can do so without someone complaining that I don’t have time for them.
If I want to go on a weekend getaway with just the girls, I can do so.
If I don’t feel like shaving my legs for a week or two, I can do so (more than that it just gets uncomfortable).
I can make myself whatever I’M craving without having to consider what someone else might be craving.
If I want to flirt shamelessly with the guy at the store, I can do so without guilt.
Clearly, many if these things can and are done by women in relationships, but not all. This is ME time and I am totally okay with that.
EDIT: After reading a couple replies I feel I need to add to this. I am in no way knocking being in a relationship. I’ve been in a few good ones where it’s great and you don’t feel you need all the things I listed, I am fully aware. I am only referring to the people in relationships that pity those who are not. The people who automatically think you’re incomplete because you don’t have a significant other. Or think you want to be set up all the time. THAT is who I am referring to.
A Mediterranean Hang Out
This was the outfit of choice for my hang out last night that I mentioned in a previous post about tapas. As I perused my closet, I came to realize that I don’t have any proper flats! I only have very casual flats, to the point of them not being able to be paired with a decent top. Note to self: Search for cute black, brown and maybe new red flats (red ones I have are so old).
Anywho, this was comfy, warm (because it was uber windy yesterday) and the boots and necklace dressed up the outfit! PCH during rush hour is no fun so I was a little late!
So to start, this happened and it was delicious! And I specially loved the cup’s little message:
It was a Dogfish Apricot IPA 8.5%! A bit too hoppy for my liking and really couldn’t taste the apricot, but not too shabby.
Now onto the tapas. Lots were ordered, but keep in mind the portions are very small (each maybe size of a tea saucer)! I’ve come to realize that tapas really are just mini-appetizers because they were all so different! We had melted goat cheese tapa with layer of marinara on top, bistec tapa, red pepper & feta hummus tapa, mini lamb skewers with tzatziki tapa and a baked brie tapa!
Nearly every tapa came with a side of pita or mini toasted bread (except the meat ones) and I had one sliver of pita and a bite of the bread, but I knew I would pay for it in the next few days if I had more (it makes me bloated), so thank goodness for the veggie slices for dipping. Thankfully this guy is aware of how I eat because he asked how I got into crossfit and I was honest! He actually high-fived me for liking meat/chicken/bacon like I do hahah. And no I’m not going to mention that I also had a vodka water after dinner.
So I have a “hang out” tonight - I don’t like calling it a date because it’s really not that formal - and we’re going to a Mediterranean grill where they specialize in tapas. I’ve never had tapas! Do you guys have any favorites?
…..and what to wear arghhhhh…..
The Date (pictured above was my outfit of choice)
Okay, so I went out on a “date” last night. I use the term loosely because we met up for happy hour at a bar/lounge. So in ThinnerThoughts’ footsteps I joined OkCupid *sigh*. I never really saw myself joining one of those sites but at the same time was really tired of meeting guys at a bar. Most of them just want to get to laid or are utter bags of douche. So I signed up, made my profile, and waited to see what happened or how many creepers would come out of the woodwork. I really like the fact that I could filter out people, like age range I have filtered is 25 to 35 and must live within 25 miles of me, etc.
Gladly, when someone messages you, you can see their profile pic, and let’s be honest here, there HAS to be that initial physical attraction at first, and if I didn’t feel that initial attraction, I for the most part just wouldn’t even open the message. Then there were some that caught my eye…so I explored. Seem normal enough, definitely cute and pretty local…not too shabby. So we text, chat and add each other on Facebook (because you know that is like super important so we can troll each others profiles and see if we REALLY want to meet or not).
Anyway, so now the date. We meet at said bar, I was a little late because of stupid parking. I stroll in, mentally crossing my fingers that he isn’t a troll that just pictures well. Think we were both pleasantly surprised (or relieved haha) and we hugged it out.
In the end, he seems like a really good guy, good values and we laughed a lot, shared a lot of stories, how we grew up, family, we both tried alligator tacos for the first time and there weren’t any awkward silences. So all is good. We both said we should go ride our beach cruisers soon, but this weekend I have my Warrior Dash competition so I’m busy, so we will see!
Let’s hope THIS doesn’t happen tonight! ‘Tis is le “date” night.
Long chat on phone [which I honestly haven’t done in a long time even with friends - we either text or in person mostly] with guy #2. Very interesting fella! No awkward silences is a good sign so far :)
Confession: Kinda nervous for the “date” tomorrow
Well, I wouldn’t necessarily call it a “date”…more like a hang out. Anyway, it’s been over a year since having gone out on a proper date due for it taking that long to get over previous crap.
What to wear, what to wear…
P.S. We’re going to get Japanese BBQ :)
After much contemplating….
…think I’m actually ready to start dating again. *sigh*
It’s grueling, no? I mean, the need to impress the other person? It’s like this ritual of courtship that sometimes I wish it can all be bypassed and just throw it all out on the table, like, “here I am, this is all me, I have my good points and my bad points, if after hearing all this you want to continue then yay” and vice versa.
Thankfully I’ve never really had any horrid date stories, although not all have been too thrilling either.
Yep, enough said.